We afford our children so much opportunity in time and the money we spend on their sports passions. Just think about what YOU could do with the time that teenagers have on their hands? The time between school and homework, time in the evenings and weekends? If you had that kind of time to focus on one thing, I’d bet you would get pretty good at it too.
As adults, with busy careers and responsibilities, we don’t have that kind of time, and often we end up living vicariously through our kids as we cart them from practice to games and tournaments. But, what happens when they disappoint? I’m not talking about losing a game at their chosen sport. I’m talking about the other aspects of their lives that have nothing to do with their athletic activities. Too often the thing they love the most becomes the tool we use to discipline with, when they fall short on grades or come home past curfew or other serious infractions. I know my parents seemed to use this sort of strategy when I was growing up. It felt to me at times, like the only reason they ever gave me anything I wanted, was so they had something to take away when I misbehaved.